Don't Be Awkward... Be Brilliant: Part 2

Ok so either you've already started this short little guide to opening up or your waiting for the whole thing.

Well without further ado here it is guys....

Days 4-10: I want you to think of six random questions to ask someone. Simple enough right? Right! Then I want you to go to the city (or anywhere people walk) and walk down a different street each day. Walk by a bus stop or somewhere theres people standing, preferably people of the hot female variety! Heres what you do

1: turn your head slightly in her direction and make eye contact

2: smile... gently! Don't have a big 'ol cheesin' grin on your face unless you want to stand out as a weirdo. Gentle yet warm works best, practice if you have to.

3: turn your head back like your gonna walk past

4: just as your passing her turn back and say "hey let me ask you something" then say whatever. It really DOES NOT MATTER!

Remember, this isn't about getting her number, or impressing her (which is should never be about impressing her!), or trying to set up a date. This is about you getting out of YOUR comfort zone and talking to hot women! It's gonna be scary, your gonna think of a million reasons not to do it... but I want you to remember the one reason you HAVE to do it! Because you are a MAN! and as a man you will achieve success with women! Your gonna have to work at it.

JUST DO IT! In fact what you say here so doesn't matter that you could just walk up and say "bubba gump" and walk off and it WOULD NOT MATTER. Because its not abou whats being said, its about saying something PERIOD!


Days 11-14: Here is where you take it to the next level, instead of randomly talking with someone, your actually going to MEET someone! But here something you need to know right away. You will fail. And at first you need to fail. This may sound like the complete opposite of what you believe... but truthfully everything you know is probably wrong when it comes to dating!

Before I get into what you do in these last 4 days of breaking out of your shell let me explain why it is absolutly NECESSARY that you fail. Being shy is not fun, its not awesome, or cool, or fantastic, or attractive. Why are you shy? Because your afraid. Wether your realize it or not, your hardwired to be afraid of social rejection. Subconciously (or conciously) you will keep from saying something in fear that it might bring a negative response from the people around you. You see a long time ago this fear was needed for survival because if you offended your group of cavemen they'd shun you from the cave and you'd probably die. Well we're not cavemen anymore but these primal fears are still hardwired into our subconcious. The important thing to realize is that its ok to open up because your not gonna get kicked out of the cave! Like with any fear you have to overcome it. One way of doing this is by desensetizing yourself to it. So in the case of social rejection, you have to fail in order to overcome the fear of failing. Once you've done it over and over, its no big deal, you realize its just part of the game. Your reality starts to take the shape of "It doesn't matter that she's not into me, its her lose not mine." and it really is her lose. HER LOSE! Got that? GOOD!

Anyway, now that I've covered why you need to fail in order to succeed on with the plan!

During these last 4 days I want you to ask 5 gils each day for their number. Try to make it different times and places, you don't want one girl you just talked to see you gaming another chick a few minutes later. Try to have fun light hearted conversation, and don't think about having to get her number, it shouldn't be a goal, just something you happen to think about as you two say goodbye.

Just simply say "well I've gotta get going but here (hand her your phone), we'll catch up sometime"

If you get her number, what you do with it is up to you (I'll cover phone game later). If she doesn't give it to you then no big deal, simply take your phone, smile, wish her a good day, and away you go.


Now, do this, see what kind of success you have. If this is the first time you've actively tryed to improve your social skills your probably going to bomb pretty hard a few times. BUT ITS OK! It gets better. If your already comfortable with opening girls, and pretty good at getting numbers then this advice is NOT for you guys. If your already socially calibrated and all that jazz its obvious you don't need to do this.

But if your SHY, and you WANT success with women, then you need to go through this little 14 day program just to get out there and experience something. THEN, and only then, can you start improving with women.

You have to conquer the shyness first before you can have model status girlfriends!