Don't be awkward... be brilliant!

For the next few posts I'm going to focus on a certain category of guys out there who have trouble with women.

The SHY guys!

The guys who have trouble comming out of their shell and showing everyone just how awesome their personality really is!

I understand that the biggest frustration for you is the fact that even though your an awesome catch, your fear of social interaction will limit you from ever being caught by the beautiful women you deserve! (I don't use the word deserve in the typical fashion, I mean it in a somewhat different manner, more on "deserve" in another post)

If your ever going to get those women, have them chase you, be desired by the types of girls you've desired for so long... then you HAVE to get over this roadblock! HAVE TO! Not "want to" or "need to"... no, HAVE TO!

And your GOING TO! Right now from this point on your going to make a concious effort to get over this. GO!

Alright so first things first. Your on your way to becoming a social butterfly... and like any butterfly, you've got to go through the ugly, slow, boring catepillar stage. This is the stage where your gonna try some things, and probably fail (the ugly part). But with time, you'll learn how to calibrate your tone and body language with delivery of what your saying and you'll start to see success (the slow part). Then once you see that success and your good at opening up people, and to people, you may feel the need to take it to the next level (you get bored).

This is where the real fun begins... but lets not get to far ahead of ourselves.

So I've come up with a system that will take you step by step to getting out of your "shell" and becoming that butterfly. Also, this is metaphorical, you shouldn't really think of yourself as a butterfly, be a lion, or tiger! Something exciting and powerful! Personally I'd be a siberian tiger... those mofo's are badass!

Anyway on with the system! It's 14 days long. Let me break it down.

Day 1: Start this day whenever you have to go to the store for some groceries. At the checkout, simply talk to the cashier, it doesn't matter if its a guy or a girl. Just say something. If your worried about future awkwardness go to a different store from your regular one. That way they'll probably never see you again. Just smile and say the usual old "its beautiful outside isn't it" with a big smile! It doesn't matter if its pouring down! Actually this would be perfect to say in the middle of a hurricane! See where I'm going?

Day 2: Go see a movie, preferably with a friend. But don't think just because your with your friend and you have someone to talk to that it means you don't have to open other people! Before the movie ask the people in line in front of you, or behind you, it doesn't really matter.. what movie they're going to see. It's that simple. During the movie ask your friend if he wants anything and go to the concession stand, talk to the concession person, It doesn't matter what, this is just about getting you used to talking to people. If you can't think of anything be like "have you seen "such and such movie", god its awful, theres this dog, and this cat, and then two beavers show up out of nowhere with lightsabers and they have mullets! what beaver do you know that has a mullet?" Basically just exaggerate so that they know what your doing, which is joking! Or talk about how awesome it is, don't just pay for your skittles and walk off! Then after the movie as your all cramming out of the door ask someone what they thought. Its that simple! Three interactions with three different people, before, during, and after.

Day 3: PARK! Get some friends together for a game of baseball or whatever, When your there ask someone who looks bored if they want to join in, "Hey whats goin' on? we're missing a pitcher and you look like you got a mean curveball, wanna sit in?"
There answer doesn't matter, just do it. Make sure the bored person is a CUTE GIRL! No, scratch that, make sure its a smoking hot blonde with the body of a supermodel! I don't care how scared you are of talking to this girl, look at her, remember the line, then think "I'm never gonna sleep with this girl it doesn't matter, I'm not even gonna see her again after this, I'm here to have fun and get out of my shell so I'm going over there and asking her if she wants to pitch damnit!" and then JUST DO IT!


Ok I can't get into days 4-14 right now, this brazillian actress I met last week just texted me wondering if I'd forgotten our date for this evening. I actually had, good thing she reminded me!

I'll post the rest of the system asap guys. Work on days 1-3 though. They're simple and they'll get you talking to people QUICKLY!

NO FEAR! JUST DO IT!

Twain*